For years, I have thumbed through every single bridal magazine I could find trying to pick out my perfect wedding dress. I had collected hundreds of torn out pages of magazines and I knew exactly what I wanted. I always fantasized about the moment I found “the dress” and getting that “wow” reaction the first time I tried it on. Finding your wedding dress is similar to finding the one you’re going to marry.
It never happens the way you though it would.
My mom and sisters went to Schaeffer’s with me months ago to start trying on dresses. I honestly didn’t think that I would find a dress at Schaeffer’s because I am far too difficult and too picky to make it easy for anyone. As we started looking through the dresses, I didn’t get excited about many dresses, but I hoped it would at least give us a good starting point. There was only one dress I liked immediately and the rest “would do for now.”
I tried on the dress that I liked first and I was ready to get my “wow” moment. I wanted the whole thing; tears, gasps, awwwws, OMG’s, and several “You look beautiful!!!”‘s. Hyperventilation optional.
I don’t think that is too much to ask for.
When they pulled back the curtain to reveal me in the first dress, I got a few gasps, but it wasn’t the “wow” moment I had dreamed of. I liked the dress on me, but I wasn’t sure it was what I was looking for. Plus, I was anxious to try on the other dresses so I wasn’t fully prepared to take it all in. I tried on the rest of the dresses and I eventually found one that I really liked. Of course, my sisters and mom didn’t like it. They pretended to humor me, but I could see it all over their faces.
I was devastated. I had found a dress that I really liked but I didn’t get my “wow” moment and I was hurt. Then… I started crying. I was that girl. I was standing in front of a 3 way mirror in a wedding dress….crying.
I left that day with no dress and no hope. After the dress pains subsided, I realized that I couldn’t stop thinking about the first dress I tried on. I wasn’t thinking about the other dress I cried about at all. I kept thinking about the first dress and looking it up on the internet just to stare at it. It was “the one.”
We went back to Schaeffer’s a week later to try on the first dress again and I got my huge “wow” moment exactly how I expected it. The dress is perfect for me, but it’s the opposite of what I thought I would wear. However, the one thing I learned from planning this wedding is that nothing turned out the way I thought it would.
Sometimes it was better.
Sometimes it was tears in a dress shop.
Kate this is so cute ~ and so true! Love reading your blogs;-)